The ability to manage stress is most times, seemingly impossible. Or, least that’s what I thought.
In my early 40’s at a routine physical, I was told that I had high triglycerides and therefore needed to reduce my stress. This had me perplexed because at the time I was like “How do I do that?’ I truly was at a loss as to how to prevent this stress-thing I had from showing up in my body. My life was my life, and being someone who most people said was calm and grounding, I was feeling confused and thirsty for a solution.
I’m not going to pretend that my busy life didn’t provide times of stress. Raising three children, a career, marriage, and everything that goes with that can indeed be stressful; and it was, but this appointment and its resulting information festered in my mind subconsciously, adding to the stress that I was determined to figure out and get handled. The fact that my body was being affected; well, I just had another thing to be stressed about!
Fast forward numerous years; an answer to what became the defining turn in my personal journey to handling my stress.
“I am responsible for my own stress.”
What does this mean you may ask?
It’s human nature to want others to make our life easier. But, do you ever stop and ponder why that doesn’t work? We get caught in the flurry of expectations and being let down when expectations aren’t met. We manage life’s struggles while simultaneously providing a positive exterior to be likable by those that matter to us or, we try to up our game by doing more to finally land that promotion we’ve been striving for. There’s a pretending that is at the foundation of our ways of being, acting and thinking that never has us feeling fully connected, seen or heard. It becomes a vicious cycle of wanting but never fully achieving the things that really matter to us. And so, the perpetual “How do I do this thing called life” remains the persistent question. It’s exhausting and stress producing.
I’d always had a premonition about the past affecting the present. You may have at one time heard someone say, “It’s because of the way they were raised” as a reason for someone’s behavior, and although there is compassion sewn into that statement, it most times isn’t enough to ease the discomfort and discord that happens between people when our past baggage comes creeping into our relationships. So, what can we do to empty that suitcase and start fresh?
In my search for clarity, the answer to that question showed up multi-faceted; self-help books, counseling, church groups, medication, etc. and although they give some momentary relief and affirmation that we’re not going crazy, would you agree that they never quite quench the thirst for a final solution? Again, enter disappointment, exhaustion and more stress.
I found that if I went deep and reflected on what goes on inside me during stressful times, what revealed itself was a way of being that wasn’t in alignment with who I wanted the world to know me as. There was an in-authenticity running me, and under the conscious threshold, preventing me from doing anything about it. Until one day…
I learned that depression and anxiety (stress) is a result of the thoughts I was having.
It is said that we have 70,000 thoughts a day, and typically the same thoughts creep in day after day. The even more eye-opening data says that we created most of these thoughts sometime in our past. We have a stored memory bank of thoughts, and unless we are in the space of creation, that bank withdraws the same perceptive thoughts day after day. So, if our thoughts are the reason for our stress, then why don’t we just change our thoughts? Let’s dive deeper. This next part is especially for the science nerds.
If every thought has a neurological correlate, and if the part of the brain that wants to keep us safe runs on the philosophy that “sameness equal safety,’ then can we assume that the thoughts we generate out of this part of our brain have us stay the same? 100% of sensory information enters into the reptilian brain first to keep us alive, and 93% of this mechanism happens unconsciously. Our autonomic system takes over, producing the same thought/feeling/ thought complexes over an over again. All in the space of keeping us alive. You see, the brain can’t distinguish between a threat being real or imagined (thought producing), so it just keeps us in fight or flight response, which is another term for stress. No wonder I had stress markers showing up in my body!
What I learned next, is that there is a part of the brain that is responsible for feelings of joy, happiness, peace, and abundance. What if I could generate thoughts from this part of the brain? Could I reverse the effects my stress-inducing thoughts had on my body if I simply started to think differently? The answer is yes, but not so easily accomplished.
The latest breakthroughs in neuroscience say that our brains are neuroplastic; that is that they can be changed. The bank of stored memory and action perceptions aren’t along for the long haul of our life, leaving us little hope for stress-free living. There is a way to generate thoughts from the highest structure of the brain called the pre-frontal cortex. It’s a simple shift of energy that will wake this part up and let the reptilian brain rest a while. A resting reptilian brain means a quiet mind full of happiness, joy, and peace. A body full of happy, joy and calm thoughts, means no dis-ease in the body.
It takes a brain first approach to shift the mind to stress-free thoughts. This is my offer for you. You now have a tool for uploading energy into the part of the brain that will allow for thoughts concerned for your well-being and not your safety. There’s a difference.
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